(sorry this is late, I just got home, so I’m counting it as day25)
I had a nice chat today via skype with a great friend Sloane. You see Sloane is a Kiva Fellow with the organization Kiva (if you don’t know Kiva you should!!) working in the Philippines for the next 3 months.
She just got there in the last 48 hrs and quickly we got to talking about the culture there and she mentioned that seemingly no one there get divorced. And this got me thinking about marriage in general, and more specifically about marriage here in the US. No, this isn’t going to turn into a post about gay marriage, but I want to think critically about why in this 3rd world country that has a large population of Christians, divorce is so low.
I really want to think hard about the fact that we might have something to learn from this country when it comes to marriages and divorce. With the US’s divorce rate at more than 50% I think we have a lot to think about. I don’t have any material about even the possible reasons behind why the rate is so low there. Sloane did mention that the fees to annul are really high, but she was completely surprised that the rates of divorce were pretty much non-existent.
I begin to wonder if being part of an impoverished country forces people to rely on one another more when it comes to family. Or is it because the wealth and freedom of the US gives us the mindset that if we don’t like something we can always replace it? Or is it something deeper in the culture and minds of the people there versus the people here?
This is the sociological side of my brain working over time here. I tasked Sloane to dig a little deeper and I’m excited to hear more thoughts from her as her journey continues.
Sometimes it’s easy to think that our little country doesn’t have it all figured out compared to the rest of the world. It’s too easy because we have plenty and we control so much that our thinking always falls towards thinking that our way is always the best way.
There are many times I deeply long for things to be simpler. Could it be that all our stuff, all our wealth, all our choices and all our powers have actually made things more complicated? Not just in terms of marriage but in life as well.
There’s certainly a lot to think about here. And I definitely don’t have all the answers. Though I am processing things, I am searching, I am digging deeper, because simply ignoring these issues won’t move us any closer to understanding them.
I’m jealous of Sloane’s trip and the work that she’s going to be doing, helping people with micro-lending and hearing stories of people who are moving from poverty to self-sufficiency. It will be an amazing 3 months. I’m glad to know people like her who are willing to serve others for the good of mankind. If only more people were willing to sacrifice in order to do good, the world would be a much better place.
Blessings to you Sloane, like I said before, love others, serve them, listen and learn. The trip has just started, but your life will be changed forever.